Instruction
One of the most effective ways to communicate an idea is to tell a story that illustrates that idea in action. That's what you'll be doing in this exercise. Here are your instructions.
1. First, make sure you know what a story is. A story is a narrative account of one particular event (or set of related events). A story takes place in a particular time and place and has elements such as characters, dialog, description, and dialog (usually all of these). When you write, "Last night, my husband said to me . . ." you are beginning a story. When you write, "My husband always tells me . . ." you are NOT beginning a story. Instead, you are compiling and summarizing many stories, distancing your audience and making your point vague and abstract. When you summarize, you are TELLING your audience about an idea, rather than SHOWING the idea in concrete action. The effect of TELLING vs. SHOWING is the same as the difference between hearing someone tell you about a movie compared to seeing the movie itself. This assignment asks you to SHOW with a STORY.
2. The purpose of your story is to ILLUSTRATE A CONCEPT THAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU from Chapter 7. Whether it's identity management, code-switching, inadvertent relational messages in emails, or any of the other many important concepts in Chapter 7, your job is to pay attention as you read and choose one concept that is especially important to you and that you can tell a story about.
3. Once you've chosen the concept, first define it in your own words. For example, what is meant by "self-serving bias"?
4. In at least 100 words, tell a story from your life experience that illustrates that concept.
5. Post your story to the discussion board forum "Self, Interpersonal Relationships, and the Nature of Conflict."
Below is an example of what your post should look like.
Concept: Johari Window
Definition: The Johari Window is a graphic representation of how self-knowledge and self-disclosure relate to one another within an individual
Story: Last weekend I went fly fishing in the cold, rain, and even snow. I met a couple old friends and we fished hard all day, walking up streams, through fields, up and down stream banks, through mud and brush, over rocks. Then we sat around a campfire and drank beer and whiskey and told stories until past midnight. I woke up in the morning so stiff and sore that it took me a while to stand up straight, and I spent quite a while silently wondering, What the hell is wrong with me? I was truly puzzled and worried and I seemed to have no good explanation. Eventually, looking at my friends also hobbling around the cold camp in the morning, and thinking about what a couple of old men they are, it hit me: I have aged. I'm one of them. It didn't happen suddenly, of course. But I was surprised because I have been, like the book says, carrying around an "obsolete image" of myself as a much younger person than I really am. I have preserved an "inaccurate self-concept" though denial of something I don't want to accept as true. Then I realized that because I love to fish and I fish a lot, usually alone, I need to correct my self-concept before I seriously hurt myself. The truth about my age, and the physical realities that go along with that, had been hiding in the "blind" quadrant of my Johari Window. Last weekend -- in the snow, at the end of April, in my 61st year -- that hard truth moved across into the Known to Self box.