Instruction
One of the most effective ways to communicate an idea is to tell a story that illustrates that idea in action. That's what you'll be doing in this exercise. Here are your instructions.
1. First, make sure you know what a story is. A story is a narrative account of one particular event (or set of related events). A story takes place in a particular time and place and has elements such as characters, dialog, description, and dialog (usually all of these). When you write, "Last night, my husband said to me . . ." you are beginning a story. When you write, "My husband always tells me . . ." you are NOT beginning a story. Instead, you are compiling and summarizing many stories, distancing your audience and making your point vague and abstract. When you summarize, you are TELLING your audience about an idea, rather than SHOWING the idea in concrete action. The effect of TELLING vs. SHOWING is the same as the difference between hearing someone tell you about a movie compared to seeing the movie itself. This assignment asks you to SHOW with a STORY.
2. The purpose of your story is to ILLUSTRATE A CONCEPT THAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU from Chapter 8. Whether it's passive aggression, competing vs. collaborating, knowing your purpose in a conflict, or any of the other many important concepts in Chapter 8, your job is to pay attention as you read and choose one concept that is especially important to you and that you can tell a story about.
3. Once you've chosen the concept, first define it in your own words. For example, what is meant by "self-serving bias"?
4. In at least 100 words, tell a story from your life experience that illustrates that concept.
5. Post your story to the discussion board forum "Managing Conflict."
Below is an example of what your post should look like.
Concept: Define the Concept
Definition: Defining the Concept means carefully describing and limiting the conflict so that both parties agree what the conflict is about and can stay focused on the main issue.
Story: The same fishing trip I described in the previous story (Chapter 7 Assignment) involved a conflict around the campfire about where to fish the next day. One of my friends was moving away from Wisconsin soon, and the next day would probably be the last time the three of us fished together. We had many choices of streams to fish, and it was agreed that we needed to design a "great day of fishing." The problem was the definition of "great day," and for a while the discussion got bogged down because we had different ideas of what a "great day" meant. One of my friends measures "great" in terms of number and size of fish caught. In his mind, the goal was to catch as many trout as possible. In other words, intense, driven fishing, maximizing "results." A slow day makes him very anxious, determined to solve "the problem." My other friend, the one who was moving away, is a "just glad to be there" kind of guy -- almost to the extreme -- who likes to mosey along and often prefers just to laze about on the stream bank smoking a cigar. He really can't keep up over a long day of hard fishing, and a "great day" for him is one that doesn't leave him behind. The conflict could not be resolved until we defined "great day" by answering the question "great day for who?" Then it was easy to make a choice. We figured out a day that was perfect for our departing friend. It rained all day...and it was still a "great day."